“off we fly, souls regenerated, onward to the next great arc of sky, the next beautiful unfurling, our eyes flecked with nova and starstuff, we are made for this journey.” ~ marna scooter
I’ve been navigating a roller coaster of emotions this summer, as my dog, Dylan, slows down and moves towards the end of his life. We even postponed a date that was set for his euthanasia, as I knew in my heart that it wasn’t his time to go yet. Thankfully, as I write this, he is still with us and we are grateful for each day.
That’s why I’m excited to offer a new group program for women – Emergence – Allowing Softness – The Feminine Embodiment Community – beginning on Monday. October 16, 2023 – Monday evenings from 6:30pm to 8pm. Join us in this safe container from anywhere – $497.00 CAD for the 7-Week Program.
This group offering supports and augments the inner one-on-one personal work that we are doing. There are times when we need a larger container, a more encompassing space in which to do the work of soul. As Carl Jung once wrote, “The soul cannot become itself without an other, which is always found in a You.”
We require community to fully restore ourselves to the world. This group program helps to place us back in the original context of belonging and deep participation in the soul lives of others.
Ultimately, it is community that offers a blessing, a landing and an acceptance of being a part of something larger than ourselves.
Our wounds make us doubt that we will ever be welcomed into the arms of the group, which makes the step into that territory feel risky. And yet, to remain outside of the body of the community is to live in isolation. At some point, we must, as poet Mary Oliver says, “risk the wildest places, lest we go down in despair and comfort.” Finding our way back into the world makes possible our full embodiment. We enter the great dance of life and offer ourselves as we are to the breathing earth.
In these times, I am thankful for the long path I’ve had with many excellent teachers, and a commitment to sharing what I’ve learned with others.
Energetic, somatic nervous system and early developmental trauma healing has been the most powerful healing process of my life.
When I went to somatic trauma healing school for over 6 years, it gave me context for all the practices that I’ve been doing, teaching and sharing.
I finally felt and understood what was happening within me on a foundational level and I felt it in my body.
What a relief.
I can be with my feelings as they rise and fall and I want you to join me.
This is not my hobby. It is a soul calling.
And the best way I know – is through doing that TOGETHER, in “safe enough” connection. When we’ve been hurt in relationship, we can also heal in supportive relationships. Relationship is medicine.
When there’s space for every part of us in the healing relationship, it’s easier to welcome that pain and then we can sink and settle into our fullest selves.
Trauma healing begins with creating space to support our nervous systems – they’ve been ruptured and in survival – causing us emotional and physical pain.
The more we embody and increase our nervous system’s capacity for the full spectrum of our human experience, the more we can steadily support ourselves with self-compassion and healing.
We grow stronger together.
As a specialist in early developmental trauma and our family trauma imprint, I feel it’s so important to know that this type of trauma lays down patterns in our brains (minds), bodies, and behaviour that we often find hard to resolve.
And who doesn’t have those patterns? Parents do their best, but no upbringing is perfect. We all have something in us that we learned in our families early on that makes us feel uncomfortable and separate.
Research shows that the impact of these patterns is profound. They affect our brains and nervous systems during development, and set us up for anxiety, depression, addictions, relationship struggles, and even physical illness.
Can you identify the effects of early trauma in you now? If not, then you are far from alone. Early developmental trauma patterns get passed down through the generations. Your parents probably had unresolved trauma in their own experience, and their parents, and so on.
It’s a legacy of suffering that continues—until we illuminate it with intelligence, compassion, and truth.
This is why I’m so excited that trauma is coming more and more out into the open. You can learn about it, take part in healing sessions and groups and ultimately take the actions to incline yourself towards healing.
And if you’re wondering what healing trauma has to do with awakening consciousness, consider this.
Awakening is the end of the belief in the separate self. When this belief falls away, everything that lies hidden in you that keeps you feeling disconnected from life comes into the light of loving aware presence, including these subtle early patterns.
Bring this light deeply into the patterns of early developmental trauma, and you’ll discover the root of the feeling of separation—a sense of lack or incompleteness. Experience this feeling in the body—without the story—and you’ll discover there’s nothing real about it whatsoever.
Becoming aware of how early trauma lives in you takes willingness and courage, as you will probably be leaning into scary places you haven’t touched before.
For me, this journey has been fueled by the fire of, “No more” No more suffering, no more cycling around in the same old patterns that have held me back from the full expression of who I am.
As we get more intimate with the subtleties of these patterns, they’ll start to soften, layer by layer. Stay with it, and there’s more and more space for the light of your true nature to shine through brilliantly.
We’re loving, whole, and resilient at the core. We can do this work.
In my experience, these patterns don’t completely disappear, but they relax tremendously. It’s an ongoing process to notice the reaction, feel the pain and hold it with huge compassion, then return to the knowing of awakened consciousness.
The pain can visit, but it doesn’t take over my experience anymore. I get on with the enjoyment of life in the moment. This is what’s possible for all of us.
How to begin? Carefully, with curiosity and care, fueled by the the desire to be free of these patterns.
Then love what you experience with all your heart.
Enter the realm of your body.
Notice the tide of your breath rising and falling – and the light coming from your heart. This is a journey of the sacred. We will re-imagine your preconceived notion of your body and enter with fresh curiosity and awe.
Let’s explore your body together – your belly, your heart, your cranium – surrender the incessant thoughts of your mind into the flowing song of Being.
When we come upon blocks in our day-to-day life and things feel hard, we want to slow down ask ourselves what do I need in my life and can we imagine it exactly. Slow down, ask yourself and imagine – what do I need right now?
Let’s gather to empower each other’s leadership in the world.
The science shows that we are bottom-up beings – meaning that 80% of the informational messages sent through the vagus nerve are from Body to Brain and only 20% from Brain to Body.
The wisdom of the body will always trump our thoughts.
In the Emergence – Allowing Softness & Keeping Yourself Close – Embodiment, Connection & Nervous System Somatic Healing 7-Week Journey, we will delve into:
– Get to know your physiology under trauma threat / fear states – learn about your body in fight, flight, freeze states – and begin to feel the effects of restoring regulation and safety in your nervous system.
– Connecting to Rituals that Support You
– Emotional tending, clearing and grounding
– Being where you are
– Opening to receive
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
– Embodied Rest & Recovery- A Body-Focused Healing Process for Healing the Body/Mind Connection – Supporting various systems in your body to allow it heal at hte deepest levels.
– Patriarchy and its shadow
– Divine Feminine consciousness & Inviting in the Feminine into Your Life
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
○ Recovery of power and personal authority
○ Inner truth and boundaries
○ Trust, vulnerability, beauty and surrender
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
– Beginning to Notice and Tend to What You Need
– Connecting and Holding Space for Sensations and Survival Energy Held in the Body – and Opening Space to Be Held
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
When we are cut off from our bodies for fear of running into old pain, we also deny ourselves access to the child in us. We keep the child protected, but it’s more like solitary confinement as we learn to cope alone, cut off from the connections that are an essential part of life.
Your younger part is waiting for you to stop judging, alienating, blaming, and shaming them. Your younger part wants to be seen, heard, accepted, and loved as you are right now.
The first step is becoming aware that your hurt little self is inside you, and making an effort to see them. Move into your body, which is their body too, and both of you can learn to feel together. Show them that it is safe by providing them with the compassionate connection they needed when they experienced difficulties. Be the comforting, competent parent to them now they so desperately needed back then.
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
6) Notice and Begin Healing Your Family Trauma Imprint – Healing practices for Your Mother Wound, Your Father Wound
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
– Receiving Intentional Touch Somatic Healing Practices
– Creating an ongoing practice
– Receive Intentional Touch Somatic Healing
This is trauma healing work – on our own – and together. There are opportunities for connecting, deepening and embodying your true authentic self as we invite more silence to be able to deepen the voice of your soul.
In the safety of this sacred container, you will be deeply supported to explore and embrace both your soul life and spiritual life with sacred tools and practices you can use at home or whenever you need to access your connection.
What supports you to feel alive?
Today, we have many habits or defensive accommodations – that keep us out of feeling. Many people didn’t get the opportunity to feel or sense their bodies and experience themselves in a healthy way – life circumstances interrupted that – so it can feel scary and very difficult to do.
We will be together to build capacity within your nervous system for feeling into your body for the first time and creating a new relationship with yourself. This takes some time.
When emotions drive our behavior, we do things we regret or go into self-protection mode.
When we learn how to witness our emotions, we see ourselves as separate from them. We become the witness experiencing emotions.
Then, we have choice and can act in alignment with our values.
Once your body begins to feel better, you’ll quickly accept that there is, in fact, nothing wrong with you. The way you feel, think, and behave, although perhaps seemingly self-destructive, has merely been an armoring of self-protection—a necessary response to a traumatic environment or experience.
Instead of self-criticism or defeat, you’ll begin to see that depression or anger or fear are natural, instinctual responses to an overwhelmed nervous system, merely trying to protect you. You are not broken and you do not need to be fixed. You just need to get back in the driver’s seat of your life and body. Let somatic healing free you from a settled life of survival.
Ready to begin your somatic journey?
With co-regulating somatic bodywork, we can finally heal and turn our hearts towards life in a new way. When we can welcome all parts of ourselves, a steadiness and soothing arrives that embraces all that we carry and all that we meet in our lives in the day-to-day. This advanced trauma specialization meets people with developmental and complex trauma in ways many of us had only dreamed of.
I am deeply honored to offer this attachment-based somatic support that:
- gives us back our health
- brings us into new relationship with the pains and pleasures we carry
- helps us take up nourishment in body, mind and soul
- re-connects us to our purpose, goals and desires
- offers us choice and helps us advocate for what we want and need
- reminds us of our worthiness and belonging
- brings us home to ourselves and our bodies
- helps us be more genuine and stand more fully in who we are
- repairs our heavy hearts and helps them soften
- shows us the strength of our boundaries and helps us feel powerful enough to use them
- helps us breathe and move and sleep more easily
- gives us the more that we’ve been wanting in ways that we never knew were possible
This advanced nervous system regulation modality called Transforming Experienced Brain and is a precise method that involves several protocols where we work directly with different systems in the body that are connected to the brain and central nervous system’s responses.
- you talking or being silent depending on what feels most alive for you in session
- sharing about past, present or future and slowing down a lot together to meet what’s here in a resourced way
- being welcome to bring all parts of yourself
- hands-on or intentional support (can be done on a table in my office or intentionally on Zoom)
- being guided for most or all of each session through the body-based and co-regulation protocol and sinking into support
- trauma informed mindfulness and breathing practices
- feeling a lot better – possibly beyond anything you’ve been able to imagine
What to Expect During a Whole Body Health Somatic Practice –
Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session
For true emotional and physical healing, we can’t leave our body and how it feels and responds, out of the process. Each person needs something very specific in their healing journey, which is why it is so important to have a customized approach with sessions that are specifically tailored for you – a combination of emotionally-focused psychotherapy and body-focused Transforming Touch, Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma.
Your body doesn’t have energy – it is energy. When we allow traumatic stress that is contained in our nervous system to begin to move through our system – flow begins to happen in our body and we feel more energetic, grounded, healthy and alive.
We explore our fluid bodies through the language of sensation, co-regulating touch,and subtle movement. We have the opportunity of allowing time to slow down, to notice, let go and shed that which needs to shed, and to come through anew and refreshed.
For those who would like to focus on a body-focused, somatic approach, we begin by talking about your background, symptoms and history. We do this online and or in-person by sitting in chairs across from each other or you lie on your back on a table. When you are sitting in a chair, we can do some talk therapy, and you may also be asked if you are open to closing your eyes and noticing your feelings, emotions and body sensations that are happening for you in each moment.
For those who would like to do Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session – sessions consist of lying on a table with eyes closed – and I offer touch on several areas of the body: the head, stress organs, the belly, and joints in the body.
Sessions are done fully clothed. Each session is one-hour, unless we are doing an extended session – and is unique depending on what you are experiencing on that day and would like to focus on during a session – we want to tune in and understand what’s really going on in your body – beyond pathology and diagnoses – to allow your body to move into a flow state, rather than to remain stuck in a stress response state – during the session and in the hours and days afterwards.
This work is support for you to feel more ease through deep embodiment, the immense gifts of slowing way down, how to lovingly hold and transform your story and become a master of our nervous system.
As you heal, you begin to feel your core as goodness; to deeply know that you belong, to feel a oneness with life. You can feel an unshakeable love in your heart that becomes a stable background in your life. The greater empathy and compassion you feel for yourself extends to all beings and the earth itself.
I will hold you with kindness, deep respect and space to be with you as you are. This deep presence will shift our felt sense experience of whole body mental and physical health care. My approach is open, spacious and flexible. I look forward to inviting you in to my space.
There is a great longing in each of us to uncover the secrets and mysteries of our individual lives, to relate more deeply and to uncover what is unique and truthful within ourselves and related to others in our lives. I look forward to seeing you in the depths of soul nourishment, vulnerability and courage.
When we begin to unravel the layers of emotions and patterns and re-route neural pathways, we have to connect back to our physical selves. Trauma forces us out of our bodies. This is why the somatic approach works so well.
When we approach the human system in a holistic, regenerative, systemic way, we build a foundation that is solid and has more capacity to experience difficulty. Yes, we will experience stress, pain, and loss like all humans do, and we will bounce back.
Who would you be if you felt nourished and loving towards yourself every day? Say ‘yes’ to what feels nourishing, joyful and expansive. Be ever so gentle with your heart.
Ready to take the next steps in your healing?