Why is it that when you have a tense conversation with a boss, coworker, or partner, you feel like you’re staring down a growling tiger? How is it that both situations cause a fight-or-flight response—and what can you learn from it?
As it turns out, the same neurological processes that cause unwanted stress can also be harnessed to summon ease, relaxation and spaciousness. When you approach these subconscious processes with openness, mindful attention, and—above all—curiosity, you can gain the understanding necessary to shape their outcomes. Our most hardwired survival responses are regulated by the vagus nerve and can be consciously regulated through somatic processes such as Somatic Experiencing (SE), Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma, Relational Bodywork and Somatic Education, and Somatic Exercises and Specialized Movement.
- How to interpret the subtle language of the nervous system
- Present-moment awareness and the mechanics of choice
- Your personal “protection-connection” equation
- How to cultivate positive nervous states
- Examining your internalized stories about the world
- How to discover the stillness available in every moment
- What actually nourishes your autonomic nervous system
- The continuum of resilience
- The process of reciprocity, rupture, and repair
- How to recognize physical cues of both safety and danger
I will work with your body’s innate ability to pick up social signals and cultivate small-moments of safety, retraining your automatic responses to stress, conflict, and hardship. With somatic practices to help you achieve greater wellness, self-awareness, and emotional resilience.
Psychological and emotional processes manifest physically through the physiology, structures and usage of the body. Sensory feedback via interoception – of the bones, muscles, fascia and organs/viscera – provides information about our emotional state of being. That is, does the body signal alarm and arousal or safety and calm? If interoceptive systems signal discomfort, pain or distress, you may enter into and stay in a heightened state of arousal or activation through a self-perpetuating positive feedback loop. This can result in intrapersonal challenges, relationship, work and educational problems, chronic pain, headaches, gastrointestinal problems, sleep issues, feeling detached, anxiety, PTSD and other difficulties.
The emotional, physical, and physiological distress may stem from a variety of challenges, including: pre and perinatal difficulties, attachment insecurity or disorganization, physical injury, sexual assault, emotionally toxic relational or societal factors, natural disasters, car accidents, surgery/anesthesia, and other circumstances that felt threatening to us.
What does safety feel like inside of your body? More settled, more grounded, less in your head, more in your body. Feeling warm and connected to yourself is a part of this healing process.
Together, we will consider some very important questions about your experience of moving, sitting, sleeping, feeling, relating, breathing and being – here are some considerations for you now:
- How do you know where your body contacts the world?
- What happens when you notice your body?
- What does your tension tell you about how you are moving in the world?
- How do you know you are breathing?
- How do you know you feel safe?
- What does your body tell you about the space you inhabit?
- How do you inhabit space and interact and move in the world?
Our patterns of behaviour arise from our life’s experiences and emerge through the filters of our perceptions and our conceived reality.
From the beginning of our lives, we construct scenarios and strategies to engage with the circumstances and relationships surrounding us. This shapes our awareness of ourselves, others and the environment and lays a foundation for our movement, expression and communication in the world.
As we embody our cellular patterns of expectations and responses, we gain understanding of their relevance and importance in past experiences. We also gain awareness of and insight into releasing those aspects that are no longer necessary for our realization of self in this moment. We become freer to make different choices. As we release our stress-induced behaviors, we discover deeper compassion, wisdom, and ease.
Nervous system dysregulation arises from developmental trauma, medical procedures, accidents, assaults, institutional, interpersonal and systemic violence, abuse and neglect. Overwhelming experiences can be processed in a gentle way where the focus is on the body’s emotional and sensory data, rather than on the details of the actual event. This work helps with the settling of nervous system so that the body’s ability to self-regulate is restored – much like resetting a thermostat. The work focuses on bringing you to a state of relaxed alertness.
My work draws on the wisdom and biology of the body/mind to help resolve trauma and bring people to a greater sense of groundedness and stability. I believe that ancestral histories that remain unintegrated are held in subsequent generations – together, we can break the patterns of early developmental and intergenerational family trauma – so that you can discover and cultivate your inner mother.
Chronic stress takes its toll on our bodies and minds. Working with individuals from a body-centred framework, connects and integrates our experience – our sense of meaning, emotions, thoughts or the “felt sense” in the body. I facilitate your process of accessing the “felt” sense in your own body and support the here-and-now shift that wants to happen. I work with early developmental trauma, birth, sexual, intergenerational and prenatal trauma.
If you’re feeling anxious, stuck or overwhelmed by life – it’s time to begin again. Start with finding a therapist who takes a whole body health approach to your wellbeing – someone you feel comfortable with, who listens and understands you, who supports your growth, and honours your strengths. Together, we will uncover hidden trauma and chronic stress patterns and reactions, so they can be resolved and healed.
With a somatic approach to whole body/mind health – helping to ease emotions and stress, reducing feelings of overwhelm and overthinking. I will help you resolve anxiety, trauma, addiction, pain and eating disorders with an integrated approach rooted in somatic psychotherapy – helping you feel better.
Growing evidence shows the importance of touch in healing from developmental and shock trauma. Healthy physical contact supports healthy emotional connection for lifelong resilient attachment and bonding. When disrupted by developmental wounding, illness or shock trauma, or when insufficient for healthy bonding the infant can grow into a child, adolescent and adult in physical and/or relational dysregulation and freeze/dissociation. Appropriate touch also supports and promotes healing of physical structures in the anatomy that impact a person’s life because of pain and/or movement difficulties.
A gentle, somatic practice and co-regulating touch, compassionately and safely treats trauma and stored stress reactions, fight/flight/freeze patterns, self-defeating behaviours – restoring a sense of joy, freedom, ease, balance, happiness.
Somatic Experiencing and Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma, Relational Bodywork and Somatic Education – has changed everything about the way I work – and how I live my own life. This new awareness of how trauma and stress physiology affects every part of our lives is life changing. I see what happens for those I work with – and I know that you too, can experience lightness, aliveness and joy.
My approach is relational, experiential, deep and embodied – helping you increase your capacity to be present with difficult feelings and emotions, and getting to the roots of what is troubling you.
I will share whole body health-focused processes designed to help you notice your thoughts, constriction and expansion in the body, energetic vibration, and what’s being reflected in the outer world that may be mirroring the inner world.
What Happens in a Whole Body Health Somatic Practice session?
During a one-on-one session, you can choose to lie on a bodywork table in-person, you can sit on the couch in front of me, or lie on the couch in front of me with pillows supporting you or on Zoom call, from your own home. We join together and listen to what is happening in your autonomic nervous system, your thoughts, as well as other systems in your body, including: your fluid body, connective tissue, breath, bones and skin.
We take time to notice moment to moment – what your body and mind are telling us. Then we make adjustments to enhance emotional and physical somatic wellness. The autonomic nervous system communicates in sensation, emotion, images, and thoughts, as well as through subtle movements and gestures. It is through the vehicle of your nervous system that we find the tools we need to create balance and healing. This is a process of noticing threat and ease in your nervous system – along with witnessing and pausing for sensing what is happening in the here and now.
Whole Body Health Somatic Practice generates a body–wide experience of easing out of rigidity, tension or defensive body holding patterns (excess sympathetic or dorsal tone) and into the flowing ease of the ventral parasympathetic nervous system.
We are setting the conditions for flow to happen again in your nervous system. We have to encourage it with placing our attention into the present moment. There is a rhythm to the timing of the session, so I may ask you to pause and notice what is happening in the here and now, even when you are telling a story. This doesn’t mean I don’t want to hear what you have to say – I am listening to the language of your nervous system, and sometimes that means we need to pause to return to the present.
Developmental trauma interrupts our self-regulation, attachment and physiology. Together, we will work to repair attachment, bonding and the traumatic stress physiology held in the nervous system. We will get to the roots of the concerns that have been plaguing you – at the level of the nervous system – the interplay between your social engagement system, physiology and attachment dynamics – and receive somatic techniques for supporting resilience, nervous system regulation and repair.
This is a deeply rooted approach towards embodiment, attachment, how trauma imprints the body, trauma resolution and recovery through the body, and discovering your inner mother. Within a safe container, engage in a grounded, safe approach to healing trauma patterns.
Clear seeing is allowing yourself to be just as you are – fully embodied and alive. In your life, who allowed you to be just as you were? Mostly, at a very young age, we were taught to give others what they needed and to suppress what was really happening inside of ourselves. You will learn to be there for yourself and ride the experience of sensations, feelings and thoughts. Becoming present to the parts of your that have been ignored or inhibited and bring compassion to the parts of yourself that you disowned, that you believed were unacceptable.
I am now offering in-person Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma sessions in-person, as well as online.
Imagine being able to heal and release trauma, fully, without delving into the stories? Finding freedom from your family’s destructive and limiting patterns. Finally finding deep peace with your past, allowing it no claim on your future. Imagine knowing you have the capacity to expand and achieve lasting success and impact for yourself and your work in the world.
This work helps you come back to yourself again and again – and it takes time to do it – I’ll be waiting for you.
Let’s talk about your experience and how I can support you – so you can begin to feel better in your body – I will answer any questions you may have about working together.
I look forward to being with you.
with love from my heart, Kim xoxoxo
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Whole Body Health & Well-Being from the Inside Out.
Deep healing at the level of the nervous system enables you to explore and expand your inner landscape where self – confidence and inner agency reside. When you heal your nervous system, you can more readily access deeper ways of knowing and being that include intuition, imagination, sensuality, and the subtle body of emotions. Get in touch to learn more about working with me – firstname.lastname@example.org / www.kimcochrane.ca
What to Expect During a Whole Body Health Somatic Practice Co-Regulating Touch Session
For true emotional and physical healing, we can’t leave our body and how it feels and responds, out of the process. Each person needs something very specific in their healing journey, which is why it is so important to have a customized approach with sessions that are specifically tailored for you – a combination of emotionally-focused psychotherapy and body-focused Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma.
3-Month Online Offering – Cultivate Your Somatic Aliveness – access deeply held emotional, physical and relational concerns and focus deeply on you during this program. Starting with a one-hour introductory session, then a 1.5 hour family systems trauma session – to access and heal the roots of inherited family trauma that you are carrying with you and how it affects your health, relationships and work in the present day – then an additional 6 online sessions to help you access deeply held body holding patterns, somatic trauma and emotional patterns and integrating unconscious blocks to help you access your internal, somatic freedom. A total of 6 one-hour sessions, on Skype or Zoom, one 1.5 hour family trauma healing session, and homework to help access internal transformation from anxiety, depression, panic, trauma, stress, eating disorders, relational struggles, chronic illness or health concerns – get in touch to learn more – email@example.com
Other Offerings – Family Systems Imprint – 90-minute Session – an in-person or virtual online Zoom session – an opportunity to get to the roots of intergenerational trauma patterns & begin a path towards relational & relationship healing.
Discover Your Inner Mother – Healing the Mother Wound – uncover your family dynamics and trauma history – this is an opportunity to strengthen your internal relationship with your mother, father and extended family – in ways that contribute to healing – get in touch to schedule an online or in-person session – firstname.lastname@example.org / www.kimcochrane.ca
Sessions for Individuals & Couples – an invitation for you – to slow down and feel the strength of a supportive resource, move beyond blame and notice how our nervous system states inform our interactions with our partner, feel present in your body, to unwind patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, hopelessness, chronic stress & pain, trauma, regulate your nervous system, to cultivate trust in your moment-to-moment experience, your naturally wise heart, and your capacity to connect to yourself, those you love and the love that surrounds us.
Somatic Body Learning & Practice and Somatic Experiencing Trauma Co-Regulating TouchBodywork for Trauma sessions are available for you now. Waking you up to Somatic Resilience & Regulation – the innate wisdom of your body, healing inherited trauma patterns, feeling yourself below the level of thought, and accessing your full beingness in flowing, fluid motion.
Get in touch to learn more about Family Systems Imprint Sessions & Individual Body-Focused Therapy Sessions, and Somatic Trauma Touch Work in The Somatic Sanctuary – The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic – in-person, online or a mix of the two – and to set up a time to work together: email@example.com
The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic:
Creating Well-Being Through Nervous System Regulation.
Heal Relational Trauma – Break the Cycle of Inherited Family Trauma.
Nurturing Connection, Restoration & Building Resilience.
Easing the Body ~ Calming the Mind ~ Opening the Heart.
Somatic Experiencing ~ Somatic Practices ~ Trauma Touch ~ Movement Practices ~ Whole Body Systems Approach for Healing Inflammation.
Working together enables everyone who is willing to do the work an opportunity to decrease feelings of anxiety, pain, depression, chronic stress, pain or illness – as well decrease the chatter in the mind, and ground your mind and body with the depth of the intelligence found in the body. Experience lasting somatic transformation and feelings of calm, peace and wholeness – within your own body and within your relationships.
You will learn to feel and by doing so, you will move towards whole body health and well-being that you can feel within you.