Embracing Your Feminine Energy Will Free You.

April 8, 2015

You are a modern woman – a blur of activity – moving from one thing to the next, and trying to be all things to all people. You are moving fast in your life to succeed, and be the best you can be.

Deep down though, something may not feel quite right.

You may feel exhausted, and sometimes wonder – what is this all for? It may be feel like numbness or emptiness, and you may feel disconnected from your playful spirit, keen intuition and heightened capacity for devotion – the beauty of your vulnerable, transformative, feminine energy and power.

Connecting to your feminine energy means coming home to what resides within – connecting to the softness, the stillness, the receptivity, the knowing, the intuition – and as we start reconnecting to what is already there, we start to unfold like a flower, one petal at a time. And that is true beauty. To own what is already there. In this moment.

We also connect with the wild, untamed and free parts of ourselves, and become truly free.

Embracing your feminine energy sounds good – but how?

Feminine energy is represented in our consciousness – at least initially, anyway – by our mothers. For many of us, our relationships with our mothers were not the nurturing, supportive relationships that would have enabled us to fully develop our feminine power.

Ideally our mothers represent a place of safety, security and love when we were children. A place where we can go to feel nurtured, supported and loved. From a loving relationship with our mothers we learn that we are totally loved and we learn to love both ourselves and others with ease. We feel secure in the feminine domain of acknowledging and expressing our feelings, relating to others, trusting our inner wisdom and overall, having complete faith in the Universe to support us in all that we do.

Unfortunately for many of us, our mothers did not provide this nurturing for us. They did not receive the nurturing that they needed, so they did not have the emotional nourishment and security from their mothers that enabled them to parent us in that way.

We need to heal our mother wound.

When we experience a lack of emotional understanding and nourishment from an early age, we don’t develop the deep inner security that goes with the feminine power. Instead, we look to control people and surroundings, so that we feel that we can have our needs met. Indeed having faith is effortless when you feel secure, but when you don’t, having faith seems like a major challenge.

Many of us haven’t learned how to trust in something bigger than ourselves, to have faith, to rest and feel secure in ourselves and allow our lives to flow.

Instead, we’re creating our lives based on a masculine ideal of success and we’re pushing, running too fast and stuck in a never ending cycle of busyness.

When you learn and heal this in your life, you become more solid in your feminine energy and power, and can release the energies of control that seem so familiar from your childhood.

So how do we heal this lack of security that so many of us suffer from as a result of our upbringing with our mothers?

First, we have to be willing to forgive our mothers who were merely behaving in the exact same way that they were treated. They were doing their best and their actions did not mean that they didn’t love us, but that they didn’t know how to love us any better. We can never fully know all that they were going through during our childhood and what challenges they were facing that made them behave towards us in the way that they did.

With this forgiveness – regardless of whether our mothers are alive or have passed on – you are free to develop and grow in your feminine energy free from the effects of the past.

Then, we have to learn to provide ourselves with the inner nourishment and support that we so badly need. We need to practice loving ourselves. Healing our relationship with ourselves enables us to grow in feelings of security. One of the key ways in which we do this is to acknowledge our innate goodness regardless of the mistakes that we have made. We were taught as children that we were good if we succeeded academically, if we were well behaved, and did what Mommy and Daddy wanted, and if we looked good in all situations.

As adults we have to know that we are good and perfectly OK even if things aren’t going our way, even if we do make mistakes and even if we aren’t a success. This innate perfection is not dependent on what we do, but on who we are and the more we can know this, the easier it is to grow the receptive, passive and magnetic power of our feminine energy.

Finally, we have to forgive ourselves for all the times we have not treated ourselves with love and support. Very often we compensate for this lack of inner nourishment with eating disorders, addictive behaviours and other compulsive attachments as a way of punishing ourselves for our inner emptiness and insecurity. This self attack, which breeds so much guilt within, has to be acknowledged and forgiven and replaced with self love and acceptance of our feelings.

As we learn to love and forgive ourselves we come to see this love reflected back to us in the world around us through the people we meet and the support that we receive from them. We find ourselves spending our time with different people and attracting in new relationships and friendships which nurture and support us in who we are.

The more we are in touch with our sense of inner connection to Universe, the easier this is to do. Our inner connection, and ability to be in the present moment, allows us the opportunity to be conscious of our feelings and behaviours and make healthy choices based on this awareness. There will be times when we choose against ourselves, but more and more we will be able to choose to support our feelings with self love rather than attack.

From this inner connection we are also able to grow in our awareness of the love and perfection that is already within us. In turn this develops our sense of inner security, our faith gradually grows and we are able to recover more quickly from the challenging situations of our lives and see their value in our growth and development.

In love and peace,

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