Wake Up In a New Relationship: Change Your Relationship Script Forever
Would you like to move beyond conflict and struggle in your relationship?
You can. By opening your mind and heart & learning to change your relationship script.
Relationship script = The patterns upon which your relationship is built on.
Many couples face struggles in their relationship for too long before learning how to improve their relationship script for the better.
Couples who get in touch with me about couples therapy feel caught in a struggle that may now feel too difficult to manage on their own.
Couples therapy works by first creating a safe environment for couples to begin to explore and deeply understand who they are as individuals, and the dynamics of the relationship.
I help couples understand, then change their relationship script, and to communicate their real needs – the needs that each person may not have felt that they could communicate on their own, in the past.
In couples therapy, you will learn how to:
1) Understand and communicate your real needs in a safe environment
You will begin to understand where your pain comes from, and what you want most deeply from your partner. One of the basic insights is that you may have developed a relationship that recreates some of the most painful parts of your childhood – and begin to learn to unhook from hurtful and destructive patterns of relating.
2) Understand and change your part in your relationship’s struggles
Once you are better able to communicate what you are feeling and what you want, instead of accusing and blaming your partner, the stage is set from the most important part of breaking a repetitive script: changing your own part of the script.
3) Understand your relationship beliefs and negotiate new relationship agreements
Trying to negotiate agreements in a relationship sends a message to a childlike defensive self that says, there are adults in change here now, you don’t have to protect us any more. You will begin to understand your unconscious beliefs and start on a new path for your relationship.
4) Build forgiveness and practice compassion towards yourself and to one another
Many of us are taught not to hold grudges and to forgive, however, letting go of past injuries can be a difficult thing to do in a relationship. Past emotional injuries have registered in our defensive self, which is now determined never to let us be hurt in the same way again. You will learn about your emotional defenses and how to open your heart once again and forgive your partner despite them.
5) Learn a mindful approach to being in relationship with another
We learn how to pay attention to ourselves in our relationship and to the patterns that are happening within the relationship. We learn to pay mindful attention so that we can be more aware when things are going well for us, and when things are upsetting or challenging for us – and then we learn ways of sharing what we notice with our partner.
To learn more about how to increase your awareness and understanding of yourself and your relationship within couples therapy, contact me for a free consultation to learn more about working with me in-person or via Skype:
[email protected] or 647 222-3086