Seeing in the Dark – Unwind Stuck and Frozen Energy Held in Your Body – Step in to Life with Your Vulnerable Heart – Feel Alive, Open and Connected in Your Body & Relationships – Explore Your Somatic Depths – Allow the Ground to Support You – Softly. Gently. Slowly.

November 29, 2022

“Listen, are you breathing just a little, and calling it a life?” ~ Mary Oliver
 
The body has been designed to renew itself through continuous self-correction. These same principles also apply to the healing of psyche, spirit, and soul.
 
Everyone can heal, but not everyone will. Let’s begin by unwinding the repetitive thoughts, feelings, memories, worry and fear that live in your consciousness – let’s soothe it all by caring for our bodies with gentle practices. It’s time to become softer with ourselves and begin again.
 
We are being asked to let go of any parts of us that are gripping, bracing or holding on to the old ways and programs that have kept us hidden and safe.⁣ The tighter you hold on to what is no longer serving you, the more suffering you will feel.⁣
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If you focus too directly on a problem, you have a problem for life. If we can soften our gaze and grip on the issue, everything changes. This  work is an opportunity to surrender to the next level of not knowing.⁣ To begin a new relationship with ourselves and our bodies and to enter into the innate healing intelligence and deep wisdom of the body – and to be with what arises.

We all hold so much chronic tension in the body. Our tension is our ego resisting, not wanting to receive the emotional information so it locks it in the unconscious, in the body.  In our work together we will practice how to turn towards our tension to receive their information and unlock the life force again, to experience more freedom and aliveness. 
 

You will be guided to listen to the subtle language of your body, its sensations, its contractions and learn how to be present with it all in a way that brings spaciousness and deep peace.

During our work together, you will meet the unknown in the present moment. The act of meeting each moment of life from the perspective of noticing your body – offers unexpected alternatives to a life lived by repeating patterns from the past. During our healing bodywork on the table, we consciously open ourselves to be affected and moved by our experience in that moment. We notice patterned responses and allow ourselves to be informed by our spontaneous interaction with this moment.
 
Having a new or different experience, can lead to unexpected healing outcomes. We will be with the emotions that arise in each moment and allow ourselves to feel the supported by the space and ground beneath us.
 
Many of us have learned to repress and disconnect from our emotions – because no one paid attention to them; and so we could stay connected to our caregivers and continue to receive love and approval from these relationships in our lives. 
 
If you push down your feelings, they will later be expressed as physical or emotional symptoms (chronic stress, anxiety, depression, pain, gut issues, relationship concerns, headaches, chronic health concerns) – as these symptoms are the body’s way of getting our attention.

The true joy of my work is allowing people the opportunity to experience their whole life as a practice for this very moment. To rewrite the blueprint that has been etched across their hearts, their bodies and their minds and to mend that great divide, one cell at a time.

I use an Integrative approach including many modalities including Somatic Experiencing, Somatic Resilience & Regulation, Transforming the Experience-Based Brain, The Polyvagal Theory, Autonomic Nervous System Mapping, The Safe & Sound Listening Protocol and Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma, Family Trauma Imprint/Intergenerational Trauma Healing, Energy Healing, Healing with Nature and Movement Repatterning.

We work closely with your body’s deeply held threat/fear/stress responses, allowing your body to slowly begin to move towards safety.I use a combination of approaches to help individuals and couples fling open the heaviness that they have been living behind, and to honestly say in their bones – “I feel safe in my body to be present with myself, to follow what I want to in my life, and to let love in now.”

Are you ready to feel alive and connected to your life again?

As a woman who spends a majority of her time listening to, seeing, supporting  and nurturing others in their life, you may long for time when you yourself can be seen, and have your own strong, clear voice be cherished and celebrated. You know you were put on this earth for something besides growing, fostering and supporting others, you’re just not sure what that is, or how to go about doing it.

Perhaps you’ve fantasized about making a bold move, but it all feels too risky. Maybe a major change has occurred in your life already – a major health crisis, the loss of an important relationship, or perhaps the start of a new one. You may also wonder why you don’t feel good, when you have everything in life that you thought would bring happiness and contentment. You may be a parent at the end of your rope, part of a couple that is struggling to find trust again, newly single, or in a job that is suffocating you. Perhaps your kids have finally left the nest, or are starting school. Your life as you know it has been shaken up.

You simply cannot go on any longer running on autopilot – doing what is expected of you, holding your breath with a tight smile on your face. You are taking it as a sign that something has got to change.

You are ready to feel alive again – many people reach a point in life where they feel their life as they know it has gotten too small for them, and they are called to express the fullness of who they are in their relationships and in the world.

It is absolutely possible to feel wildly uninhibited and expansive in your life without having to give up life as you know it, or suffer tremendously.

You may be surprised to realize that the experiences, beliefs, feelings that were supposedly banal, difficult, tragic, shameful, secret, or unimportant, are actually sacred and contain powerful medicine that can heal you and others when transformed through the alchemy of the creative-embodiment process.

When you step fully into this embodied expression you become more attractive both to yourself and to those around you. It becomes possible to go after what you really want and get it.

“I can’t take it any more” becomes “I don’t have to!” or “I know what to do and I can do it!”. Anger becomes liberating. Boredom blossoms into excitement and chaos finds a natural order. A shamed and defeated posture is transformed into an open chest, a strong spine, and a calm and assured gaze.

We can be together and notice what you are feeling in your body. Even if you don’t notice anything, you may be holding or suppressing feelings that may not always make sense to you. Let’s make sense of it together and begin to make space for energy in your body to flow.
 
Most of what we struggle with in the present day, has its roots in what happened many years ago – early developmental trauma, mother & father wounding, intergenerational trauma patterns, pre & peri natal trauma- happening from birth and into later childhood. We are often not able to know exactly what happened during these times, but as we go deeper in your experience and what your body is holding, we can begin to have a good idea about these trauma patterns and how they are showing up in your body responses and in your life today.
 
Those who want to work with me for relational somatic energetic healing, have often tried a lot of other modalities first before coming in. Each person is knowledgeable and aware and still they haven’t been able to find lasting relief from chronic stress, anxiety, relationship concerns, eating patterns and addictive behaviours that get in the way of living life more fully and feeling fully alive.
 
We can unwind somatic holding and repattern your nervous system responses so that you can feel better.

Together, we will undercover and understand:

  • Our symptoms are signals from our deepest self.
  • Identify our individual issues and strengths.
  • Identify the root causes of our emotional and physical issues so that we can fully heal.
  • Provide individualized care specifically for you.
  • Find coherence – where all parts of your body, mind and spirit are in harmonious alignment and your actions and achievements are completely true to you.
  • Heal at the roots of our chronic stress response – physical and emotional roots held in the body.
  • Notice health patterns related to our fear response arises.
  • How Relational/Family trauma patterns show up in your relationships today.
The way we experience relationship, to ourselves, to the people in our lives and the world around us, is one of the most important aspects of being human.
 
We all desire connection, security in self and the ability to live feeling whole and free. Throughout our lives, we learn to protect ourselves, often unknowingly creating trauma responses and reactions that come from wanting to feel safe and secure. We can feel disconnected from our experiences, from ourselves and from the people around us, unable to decipher our physical responses during elevated emotions, and we settle into a knowledge that we aren’t showing up as the fullest and most honest expression of ourselves.
 
Once this truth is recognized, we begin to search for missing pieces. True transformation comes from learning how to embody and integrate everything you’re learning to explore, so that genuine and lasting change can take place.
 
When you learn how to tune into the body, how to become aware of your survival patterns and begin to heal trauma, the outcome will always be more honest intimate relationships.
 
Trauma ruptures connection. When you are able to support yourself somatically, you repair and move through a deepening of your relationship to self and others.
 
Discover a clearer sense of when you are in survival patterns or in a trauma response vs when you are responding from a place of deep truth.
 

Know yourself, trust yourself, find clarity around what you want and need, giving you access to the ability to express with less fear, shame or the desire to shut down. You will experience a deep sense of aliveness and freedom, leading you to create more meaningful connections and hold deeper conversations with colleagues, employers, friends, family and partners. You will live in a place of knowing you are whole, worthy and you belong.

 
Practice quieting your mind and body with powerful body-focused techniques. Experience the core of your being as innate clarity, love and power.
 
This is an offer of deep wisdom for your body, wise to humanness, wise to universal love, wise to the process of deep transformation.

We will focus on a wide variety of areas of concern that you may have:

  • Family of Origin Relational & Ancestral Healing – Understand the effect of your early childhood or adverse childhood experiences on your emotional & physical health now
  • Somatic Deep Body Healing – Reprocessing deeply held trauma within your brain and nervous system
  • Attachment Healing & Break in the Bond with Mother– Rewire early attachment and familial patterns – Mother & Father Wounding
  • Birth Trauma & Early Developmental Trauma Healing – Learn about your HPA axis, levels of cortisol and adrenaline and how these may be adversely be effecting you
  • Embodied Recovery – Understand your somatic narrative and cultivate resiliency as a felt sense in your body
  • Embodied Movement – Understand how movement, flow and sound can help you move through deeply held emotion
  • Become aware of how stress feels in your body
  • Facilitate emotional processing of deeply held or stuck emotion
  • Process long-held anger, grief & loss
  • Reduce feelings of anxiety, depression and overwhelm
  • Integrate gut felt sense with cognition
  • Work with and know your own needs and self care
  • Become aware of stress activation patterns
  • Work with communication, energy, movement, boundaries & limits
I support individuals and couples to uncover the root cause of the emotional and physical symptoms that they are experiencing. Our symptoms can be indications that our bodies and lifestyles are out of balance.  With a special interest in chronic stress, chronic pain, ongoing chronic women’s health concerns, including eating disorders, cycles of anxiety, depression, overwhelm and and hormonal health – from PMS and fertility to menopause, and digestive issues.

If you find yourself repeating painful patterns in your relationships – and/or are you often feeling frustrated, overwhelmed or anxious?

Perhaps you’re ready to stop avoiding, numbing, fighting, running or dissociating from the pain? I can support you to heal long-held trauma that shows up as working too much, eating disorders, addition to drugs and alcohol, chronic stress, pain and illness.

Connect to your core self and allow your body to feel fully alive – this alone can begin to restore what was lost through developmental trauma and life’s circumstances. We each have within us everything we need to recover from what happened to us, or what should’ve happened and did not.

I am deeply devoted to supporting others to remember the innate deep wisdom of their hearts as part of my journey. I am dedicated to freeing myself and helping others free themselves from the unintended burden of familial, cultural, and ancestral imprinting. It is your right to experience being in your body as an easeful, pleasurable and joyous experience.

This work is support for you to feel more ease through deep embodiment, the immense gifts of slowing way down, how to lovingly hold and transform your story and become a master of our nervous system.

Our early developmental and attachment wounding is a wound with life itself. To an infant, our attachment with our mother is everything – our very experience of ourselves and of the world was filtered through the body and psyche of our mother.

As you heal, you begin to feel your core as goodness; to deeply know that you belong, to feel a oneness with life. You can feel an unshakeable love in your heart that becomes a stable background in your life. The greater empathy and compassion you feel for yourself extends to all beings and the earth itself.

I hold you with kindness, deep respect and space to be with you as you are. This deep presence will shift our felt sense experience of whole body mental and physical health care. My approach is open, spacious and flexible. I look forward to inviting you in to my space.

Who would you be if you felt nourished and loving towards yourself every day?
Say ‘yes’ to what feels nourishing, joyful and expansive.  Be ever so gentle with your heart.

I look forward to being with you.

all my love, Kim xoxoxo
[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

Whole Body Mental Health & Well-Being from the Inside Out.
Deep healing at the level of the nervous system enables you to explore and expand your inner landscape where self – confidence and inner agency reside. When you heal your nervous system, you can more readily access deeper ways of knowing and being that include intuition, imagination, sensuality, and the subtle body of emotions.

Get in touch to learn more about working with me – [email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

What to Expect During a Whole Body Health Somatic Practice –
Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session

For true emotional and physical healing, we can’t leave our body and how it feels and responds, out of the process. Each person needs something very specific in their healing journey, which is why it is so important to have a customized approach with sessions that are specifically tailored for you – a combination of emotionally-focused psychotherapy and body-focused Transforming Touch, Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma.

Your body doesn’t have energy – it is energy. When we allow traumatic stress that is contained in our nervous system to begin to move through our system – flow begins to happen in our body and we feel more energetic, grounded, healthy and alive.

We explore our fluid bodies through the language of sensation, co-regulating touch,and  subtle movement. We have the opportunity of allowing time to slow down, to notice, let go and shed that which needs to shed, and to come through anew and refreshed.

For those who would like to focus on a body-focused, somatic approach, we begin by talking about your background, symptoms and history. We do this online and or in-person by sitting in chairs across from each other or you lie on your back on a table. When you are sitting in a chair, we can do some talk therapy, and you may also be asked if you are open to closing your eyes and noticing your feelings, emotions and body sensations that are happening for you in each moment.

For those who would like to do Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session – sessions consist of lying on a table with eyes closed – and I offer touch on several areas of the body: the head, stress organs, the belly, and joints in the body.

Sessions are done fully clothed. Each session is one-hour, unless we are doing an extended session – and is unique depending on what you are experiencing on that day and would like to focus on during a session – we want to tune in and understand what’s really going on in your body – beyond pathology and diagnoses – to allow your body to move into a flow state, rather than to remain stuck in a stress response state – during the session and in the hours and days afterwards.

The Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP)+
Co-Regulating Touch Trauma Resolution Bodywork = Somatic Healing

The POLYVAGAL THEORY – SAFE & SOUND PROTOCOL OFFERING – The Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) is an auditory listening intervention for adults and children – using headphones – that is intended to accelerate the effectiveness of other modalities by preparing each person’s emotional and physiological state. Dr. Stephen Porges (developer of The Safe & Sound Protocol & of The Polyvagal Theory) explains that we need a calm autonomic/physiological state for health, growth and restoration, and achieving this becomes the foundation of an effective therapy. 

The Safe & Sound Protocol is a way to support a change  in your physiological state; opening the system to further neural change and improvement for other therapies that follow. The process is designed to reduce stress and auditory sensitivity while enhancing social engagement and resilience. The intervention uses prosodic vocal music that has been filtered to train the middle ear muscles to focus in on the frequency envelope of human speech. You’ll find you are better able to feel calm – less chronically stressed and/or anxious.  Clients who have experienced long-held trauma and are healing from PTSD, troubling chronic health concerns, chronic pain and troubling chronic emotional responses, can experience an increased sense of safety in their physiological state.

HEART HEALING SESSIONS – Heart healing sessions are all about you, your path and healing. It is about several sessions scheduled over a period of days to support you along your healing path.

My clients love this work, it is nourishing and gentle. It is wonderful for healing early developmental trauma, attachment repair and shifting to a more regulated place where the heart can freely open into abundance.

You may want to schedule these sessions as a focused time for letting go of all that you healing. Heart Healing sessions consist of combining several sessions over a short period of time. They are a great way to get out of your daily routine and be immersed in healing. We may meet for multiple sessions per day over 2-4 days. Since you will be out of your typical routine, this will give plenty of time for integration of the work and healing.

The Heart Healing Sessions are held in my office in Markham. You can schedule between 2-4 sessions over a period of days. Since this work is done away from your typical day to day life, integration of the work is deep and truly transformative.

I am sending softness, gentleness and love from my heart to yours. May you slow down and receive the wisdom your body is seeking to share with you breath by breath.

Let’s plan your sessions in advance – if you are interested in scheduling or have questions, please get in touch and we will make a plan for your visit.[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

OTHER Offerings – NURTURE SURROUND HEALING SESSION– 90-minute In-Person session. Allow yourself to slow down and experience deep healing. You are deeply supported on the table with weighted blankets, soft pillows and bean bags on your body – you choose what is most comfortable for you – providing soft, nurturing care – feeling supported and held – with choice. We will take time to attune to your body’s core needs and comfort at a deep level. Your needs are important. I will use a variety of touch skills with you – and invite you to place a hand wherever you would like to on your body – and to pause, slow down and notice what you feel.

Using mind-body skills to stabilize your nervous system – befriending, grounding, slowing down, tracking and resourcing. We will listen to your body’s narrative while utilizing body-mind emotion dialogue. We will explore biological survival strategies and process historical trauma by creating moment-to-moment interpersonal experiences of safe connection. We will utilize non-cognitive senses of relational connection – auditory, visual, movement, and touch – co-creating manageable ways to defuse internal feelings of pressure, anxiety and stress.

NEW – SOMATIC MENTORING – I am now welcoming therapists, health care professionals, healers, coaches, bodyworkers and anyone who resonates with my work; who would like to have open space to explore how early developmental, prenatal and intergenerational trauma lives in their bodies  – explore somatic blocks to expansion, heal chronic anxiety, illness and pain patterns, and have an open space to explore the deepest parts of yourself in relation to yourself, your work, your life and your relationships with others. This work happens on the table, in-person and online via Zoom.
Let’s explore together – [email protected]

THE COUPLES SESSIONS – Awaken in Relationship – Being Present to the Relational Wounding and the Pain We Carry – Ongoing Bi-Weekly or Monthly Sessions for Couples (online or in-person) – Learn to Process Deeply Held Emotion, check-in with each other regularly and learn to communicate from the heart and to connect deeply with one another again or for the first time.

1) Be with Relational Wounding when it shows up in your relationship
2) Be with and face Hot Button issues when they arise and cause conflict
3) Take 100% responsibility for yourself in your relationship.

Our feelings, bodily sensations and relational patterns are clues to what is being held in the unconscious – so we must be present to them. Conflict can give us the opportunity to awaken out of the conditioning that we are a separate, disconnected self.  Get in touch to learn more and work together – [email protected] – www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

HEALING CODEPENDENT PATTERNS IN RELATIONSHIPS – healing through the body for codependent patterns in relationships – healing from resentment, blame, shame and addictive patterns – nurturing your inner child – learning your needs in relationships – and finding ease in the body, mind and heart for longstanding conditioned patterns.

HEALING FAMILY TRAUMA IMPRINT – 90-minute – in-person or online Zoom session – an opportunity to get to the roots of intergenerational trauma patterns & begin a path towards relational & relationship healing.

DISCOVER YOUR INNER MOTHER– Healing the Mother Wound – uncover your hidden family dynamics and trauma history – this is an opportunity to strengthen your internal relationship with your inner your self – as well as your mother, father and extended family – in ways that contribute to healing – get in touch to schedule an online or in-person session – [email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

SESSIONS FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES – Relational Neurobiological Somatic Healing -an Embodied invitation for you – to slow down and feel the strength of a supportive resource, move beyond blame and notice how our nervous system states inform our interactions with our partner, feel present in your body, to unwind patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, hopelessness, chronic stress & pain, trauma, regulate your nervous system, to cultivate trust in your moment-to-moment experience, your naturally wise heart, and your capacity to connect to yourself, those you love and the love that surrounds us.

Somatic Body Learning & Practice and Somatic Experiencing Trauma Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma sessions are available for you now. Waking you up to Somatic Resilience & Regulation – the innate wisdom of your body, healing inherited, ancestral and pre & peri natal trauma patterns, feeling yourself below the level of thought, and accessing your full beingness in flowing, fluid motion.

Get in touch to learn more about The Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP), Embodied Recovery, Nurture Surround & Family Systems Imprint Sessions & Individual Body-Focused Therapy Sessions, and Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma, NeuroAffective Touch – The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic – in-person  and/or online – and to set up a time to work together:   [email protected]

The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic:
Creating Well-Being Through Nervous System Regulation.
Heal Relational Trauma – Break the Cycle of Inherited Family Trauma.
Nurturing Connection, Restoration & Building Resilience.
Easing the Body ~ Calming the Mind ~ Opening the Heart.
Somatic Experiencing ~ Somatic Practices ~ Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma ~ Movement Practices ~ Whole Body Systems Approach for Healing Inflammation.

  • Move Energy Through Body – Movement & Breathwork – discover energetic awareness and simplicity.
  • Sensory Awareness … becoming more in touch with oneself and the world.
  • Somatic Reclaiming … re-integrating the body/mind/spirit.
  • Pre and Perinatal Therapies … consciousness begins before birth.
  • Somatic Experiencing … resolving shock and trauma.
  • Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy … helping restore integrity in our living organism.
  • Relational Therapy … awareness in therapy; awareness in life.
  • Autonomic Nervous System Mapping – learning about what happens for you in different areas of your nervous system

Somatic Healing work can be done effectively online, as well as in person – online sessions are available for those who would prefer not to come in to the office at this time, for those who live far away from the office, or prefer to work from your own home – [email protected]

Working together enables everyone who is willing to do the work an opportunity to decrease feelings of anxiety, pain, depression, chronic stress, pain or illness – as well decrease the chatter in the mind, and ground your mind and body with the depth of the intelligence found in the body. Experience lasting somatic transformation and feelings of calm, peace and wholeness – within your own body and within your relationships.

You will learn to feel and by doing so, you will move towards whole body health and well-being that you can feel within you.

[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

Feedback from a recent client:

“Kim’s presence and touch helped me feel at home… Held. Seen. Known. Grounded. Supported… yet sweetly released, freed from doing and all the shoulds that make up my life.”

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When I came to you I felt confused, disconnected and broken. Now, I'm on my way to feeling whole. Thank you.
Kim Cochrane
2016-10-06T10:59:12-04:00
When I came to you I felt confused, disconnected and broken. Now, I'm on my way to feeling whole. Thank you.

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I’m so glad I’m giving myself space to explore what’s happening in my life and to understand my feelings.
Kim Cochrane
2016-10-06T10:59:51-04:00
I’m so glad I’m giving myself space to explore what’s happening in my life and to understand my feelings.

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I've wanted to do this for a while and I'm so glad I did - I trust myself more now, I feel more calm and open - working together has changed the course of my life.

Kim Cochrane
2016-10-06T11:00:16-04:00
I've wanted to do this for a while and I'm so glad I did - I trust myself more now, I feel more calm and open - working together has changed the course of my life.
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