Relationships – Understanding Love
“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn, is to love, and be loved in return.”
There’s a lot going on inside of us when we seek out a romantic partner. Unconsciously, we are seeking to repair old wounds, or perhaps to find someone who will give us the kind of love, nurturing and attention that we did not receive while we were growing up.
Our intimate relationships offer the promise and possibility of so much. Our love relationships are prized so highly by most of us, and we are often disappointed by them.
Do you allow yourself to be vulnerable in relationships?
Have you closed yourself off from relationships because you’ve been hurt in the past?
Are you open to love others and to receive the flow of love coming towards you?
Confusion, conflict and suffering arises in our intimate relationships, even those that begin with the best of intentions. When we’ve been hurt the most or feel the most pain, it is a good time to turn towards your pain and examine your agendas, dependencies, expectations and sabotaging complexes at work within yourself and your relationships.
Many of us get caught in blaming our partners for their shortcomings; and this may be true. It may seem easier to blame, change our partners or to leave them, rather than examining our own responsibility in relationships.
How have you been showing up?
Without knowing it, we have been projecting our parent’s vision, or our culture’s vision of the good life on to our romantic relationships, and we don’t even realize how much we are asking of them. We are counting on them to make us happy, bring us success, fulfillment, meaning and perhaps even allow us to remain naive children a little longer.
Our relationships can’t carry the burden of this expectation for too long. And we struggle.
We can move beyond the struggle and understand how we’ve been showing up in our relationships. We can begin to know how we approach and behave within relationships.
Together, we can understand our unconscious relationship agendas and learn to face ourselves first.
If we allow ourselves to move beyond our fears, we can understand why our relationships may struggle, learn new ways to give and receive love, and move towards eachother to create deeper, more intimate connections.
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