At Midlife – Making Sense of the Second Half of Life
At midlife, your life begins to ask you questions:
– Whose life have you been living?
– Why do you believe that you have to hide so much, from others, from yourself?
– What has brought you to this place in your journey, at this moment in your life?
During midlife, we may wake up to find that we have been living someone else’s life and that outdated values have been directing our choices. The life we are leading never seems to feel quite right, but at the moment, it seems to be the only alternative.
What to do?
Within relationships and our careers, we may find ourselves in what some psychotherapists call ‘a dark wood’. A confusing place that no amount of good intentions, conscious intelligence, forethought, planning, prayer or advice from friends can spare us from. We may experience periodic feelings of disorientiation, boredom, restlessness, disappointment in ourselves and others, and a breakdown of the plans that seemed to work before.
You may prefer to ignore your confusing feelings, and decide to focus instead on comfort, security, and predictability. The good news is that there is a larger purpose to your confusing feelings. Much later, we are able to recognize that our feelings were moving us purposefully down our path; that our restlessness had a purpose, and that we are being initiated to a new phase of our journey, though it certainly doesn’t feel like that at the time.
As human beings, we are on a continuous journey towards wholeness. We are always searching for meaning for ourselves and our lives. As you may be struggling and suffering through transition at midlife, you are being called to ask yourself new questions about yourself and your life. You are constantly evolving as a person and are being called upon to expand yourself in new ways.
Midlife can be a confusing and scary time. Each of us is on a unique journey, and we are each called upon to find our personal path through difficult and possibly confusing feelings.
We can make sense of this transitional time together.
Your journey is your journey. It is never too late to begin anew.
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