Let Go of the Daily Need to Protect Yourself.
When looking at the patterns within yourself, it is not difficult to find the most primal energy flow is the survival instinct. There’s always been the day-to-day struggle to protect oneself.
Over time, and in our highly evolved current social structures, our survival instinct has gone through significant changes.
Many of us no longer lack food, water, clothing, or shelter; nor do we regularly face life-threatening physical danger. As a result, the protective energies within us have adapted toward defending us psychologically, rather than physiologically.
We experience the daily need to defend our self-concepts, thoughts and beliefs, rather than our bodies (as in a physical attack).
Our major struggles end up being with our own inner fears, insecurities, and destructive behaviour patterns, not with outside forces.
Even so, we are still being run by the same impulses that make us run away from instinctual fears, much like a deer would run away from a predator.
Suppose you begin to imagine an unsuccessful future, or feel alone in your life or you are in conflict or rejected by someone that you care about. These are not physically threatening situations, yet we become afraid internally and our hearts begin pumping a little faster, our adrenal glands work harder and harder – and we find ourselves in consistent, and sometimes, chronic stress response.
We fight, flee or freeze. We are caught in the stress response.
This is a deep, personal fear, demanding protection.
So, instead of running into the woods and shaking off our fears, like a deer would do, you withdraw, close down, become still and pull back behind your protective shield within yourself.
You are actually closing down your energy centres. You close down your heart and put up a psychological protective shield.
Without realizing it, you’ve been closing down to avoid being too receptive and sensitive to the different and sometimes difficult energies coming in and causing fear.
When you close down and protect yourself, you are protecting your self-concept – who you believe you are.
Although a situation may not present any physical danger, you may experience fear, insecurity and feel emotionally triggered.
The part of you that gets emotionally triggered is out of balance. It’s so sensitive that the slightest concern causes your system to light up and blow our emotional trigger out of proportion in our minds.
We constantly, and often without our awareness, shut down and protect ourselves. This process only hides our struggles, it doesn’t protect us from them. You’re locking your troubles inside yourself and it will only get worse if you do.
At some point, you may realize that if you keep protecting yourself from people, situations, and environments, you will never be free. If you keep the scared person locked inside you, you won’t be able to grow into all of you that truly does exist inside of you, that you may not yet even be aware of.
If you don’t grow, you will become stagnant – living your life around your stored pain or concerns. All of your habits and idiosyncrasies will stay the same – and living like this allows for very little spontaneous joy, enthusiasm and excitement for life.
Many people spend their days protecting themselves and making sure nothing goes wrong.
Real growth and new insights arise when there’s only one person inside of you – not the part that’s scared and the part that’s protecting the part that’s scared. All parts are unified.
When there’s no part of you that you’re not willing to see, the mind is no longer divided into conscious and subconscious.
When you allow all parts of you to arise and be known to you, you are free – no longer protecting and hiding scared parts of yourself in the dark, and keeping your pain to yourself.
Begin by noticing your tendency to withdraw, and to protect and defend yourself. Give yourself the ultimate gift to decide not to do that anymore.
Your reward is liberation.
You are free to walk through the world without a problem on your mind – and just experience what happens next. You no longer worry or are scared about what’s going to happen next.
There’s another way to live where we don’t have to close down and we can get in the flow of our lives – breathe, feel, allow for emotional release, let go and forgive.
You can use your life to free yourself. You can stay open, so that you can be free to grow and experience joy and ease in your life. It doesn’t matter what others do, it only matters what you do.
Notice where your energy goes within you, and watch the flow of your life. Over and over and over again – remember that you are limitless.
with love, xo.
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