When You Feel Unlovable or Unworthy
Many of us are hiding – feelings and parts of ourselves away from others in order to be loved and accepted.
We even hide our feelings from ourselves.
Early in your life you formed an unconscious commitment to beliefs about yourself. Those beliefs run in the background of your life – out of your awareness – until you become conscious of them.
Here are some of the unconscious beliefs that you may be committed to:
I am unlovable.
I am unworthy.
I stay in relationships because I cannot hurt someone.
I work too much.
I do what’s asked of me when I don’t want to and feel resentful about it.
I stay out of conflict with everyone.
I stay in jobs that aren’t fulfilling.
I don’t trust myself.
I don’t trust my decisions.
I ignore my own needs.
I don’t spend money on myself because I should be focusing on others.
I don’t take time for myself – to explore, to breathe, to rest, to grow, to laugh and to play.
You may not know how to untangle your habitual patterns and discover your truth.
You may be described as a perfectionist, a people pleaser, or a high achiever – no matter what you call it, you’re suffering with a series of beliefs and patterns that keep you stuck.
Situations or relationships may change, but the same things may keep happening to you.
You can begin to understand and unwind your habitual patterns and ways of relating in your relationships to create a new reality for yourself.
When we act out of our habitual patterns, we are not present to the situation or another person, because our feelings and actions are coming out of old habits and feelings from the past.
It takes courage to become aware of and examine our habitual patterns and beliefs and begin to change them.
To foster your courage, begin to expand your awareness and make space for something new to unfold. Hold yourself in a space of loving self-acceptance, so that you can explore and step into new choices and possibilities. When you notice your old habits and patterns, ask yourself, what could you have done differently, and imagine what it would be like to act in a new way.
If you would like to understand your core wounds, break free of habitual patterns and core beliefs, practice loving self-acceptance, and to allow the love and joy that exists within you to come through you – there’s good news!
For the first time, along with one-on-one psychotherapy and yoga therapy, I’ll be launching a new group program – Break Free of Your Inner Glass Ceiling beginning in January 2015.
This new program will help you uncover and untangle your beliefs about yourself and allow for a new, loving and beautiful reality to blossom for you instead.
Watch the blog and Facebook for more details about this new program beginning in January 2015.
You may tell yourself that you don’t take time for yourself – to explore, to breathe, to rest, to grow, to explore, to laugh and to play.
Is it time to become aware of your patterns and change them?
To invest in yourself, to grow, to be courageous and make a new choice?
I would love to work with you and to truly see, hear and understand the real you.
[email protected] or 647 222-3086