Embodying Emotions in the Flow – Healing the Fear Body & Being with the Inner Voice of Chronic Stress, Anxiety & Fear – Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Healing Nervous System & Neuromuscular Defensive Tension Patterns – Unwind and Soften Deeply Entangled Emotions, Thoughts and Beliefs.

April 20, 2022

“The body is a sacred garment,
It’s your first and last garment:
it is what you enter your life in and what you depart life with,
and it should be treated with honour.”
~ Martha Graham
I am overflowing with gratitude for this precious life – and our ability to turn towards our bodies to sense deep feelings of  “ahh, I am here, I am welcome here, I belong here, I am home” – cultivating nervous system regulation, healing trauma patterns and a deeper sense of peace inside of ourselves.

I feel immense gratitude for the teachings I have received,  and the possibility of sharing these gifts with others.

Deep somatic wisdom can be sensed directly and simply through our vulnerable bodies. Our bones are made of the same minerals and chemicals that live in both the earth and the stars. The body of mother earth, her atmosphere and our physical bodies are never separate.
In our work together, I support you to reconnect with your own innate wisdom, life force and sacred feminine energy that is within you, to rewire early developmental trauma imprints and emerge more integrated and powerfully connected to yourself.
If you would like to move into a new felt of sense of healing in your body, mind and heart – we will go deeper, to access pain and emotional experiences where they have taken root — in our bodies.
Hidden early trauma can move us out of our bodies and prevent us from feeling and being in our bodies – sometimes for our whole lives. We can unravel the layers of emotions and patterns, to begin to re-route neural pathways and reconnect with our physical selves. This is why the somatic approach works so well.

We create a space where you have time and support to:

  • Recognize and understand your true needs.
  • Heal mother and father wounding.
  • Respectfully and compassionately move through layers of defensive patterning and differentiate layers that are not yours.
  • Reconnect with your innate essence and authentic impulses, so you can follow your inspiration and passions.
  • An increased capacity to be with your feelings, emotions, sensations, expanding your window of tolerance.
  • Reparent your younger part -learning to give to yourself what you didn’t receive in your early years.

Healing means integrating your past and changing the narrative, learning to be with yourself, to be with your pain, to give yourself what you need and didn’t receive. We heal layer by layer and continue to grow towards a more fulfilling life and a stronger sense of self.

My clients have found that they:

  • Reach out for support more often, instead of holding it all in on their own.
  • Can access more joy and pleasure in their day to day life.
  • Have practices to stop the overthinking, ruminating and worrying patterns.
  • Set healthy boundaries around how much they give, and to whom.
  • Bring more compassion & choice to their behaviour patterns.
  • Are more present and grounded and able to trust life more.

So many women die with their deepest potential unexplored. Many of us believe that in order to be “good” and “loved” and “not-kicked-out-of-society,” that we must ignore what is true for ourselves and pay most of our attention to others.

Following what feels the truest to us can feel scary.

How do we live with it all?

One key is returning to the present moment through embodied awareness. True embodiment and authentic presence includes intimate integration of our inner and outer worlds – the experience of our fundamental consciousness with everything and all that is. We learn to attend to our sensations, feelings, thoughts and environment. We can express the full range of our emotions and share our grief until we are ready to also receive the beauty and joy also held in this day. We can learn that multiple experiences can live simultaneously.
If we turn away from the physical and social environment, with all the suffering caused by unconscious ignorance and greed – without being able to appreciate the gifts, we are also incomplete. Grounded and listening deeply to both inner and outer worlds, we celebrate life wholeheartedly, without denying our disappointment and grief.

Feeling the Fear Body

Fear also shows up as physical sensations in the body. You might notice contractions, tightness, a sense of unease.
Getting to know the physical sensations of fear is an important aspect to flowing more freely through it. If we ignore these sensations, fear will be running in the background and we won’t realize it. Meet it with loving awareness, and the feelings of fear won’t take a strong hold.
Slow down and bring your attention away from your mind and notice the sensations in your body. Don’t do anything with them—simply notice them and allow them to be present.
Let the sensations be here as long as they want to, as they change, intensify, disappear…it doesn’t matter.
Be with these sensations—don’t see them as a problem to solve. The human body is built for survival, and these sensations help you pay attention to what you are experiencing, so you can protect yourself.
Meeting your sensations in a field of welcoming awareness derails the pattern of fear from overtaking you.

Somatic Wisdom Practice

Soften your grip on the world around you and notice your back against your chair, bed or couch.

Notice – are you safe in this moment?
How do you know – what do you notice in your body?

Notice the rise and fall of your emotional process – slow down, notice, allow, feel, allow support in, and feel connected to your body, your environment and everything and everyone around you.
Much of our suffering comes from our sense of self becoming entangled in the thoughts, emotions, and sensations that arise when we notice our bodies. 

We often believe our thoughts and feelings as true without question, and get lost in a negative story about ourselves or our lives.

In fact, all our thoughts and feelings are temporary. They arise and pass away. They don’t define who we are. Our true nature isn’t to be found in what’s happening, but in the compassionate presence that relates to what’s happening. In other words, we are not the contents of our noticing, we are noticing itself.

When we forget this, we can get sucked into the drama of what’s happening and can’t give ourselves the kindness and support we may need in each moment.

We also tighten and resist what’s arising when it’s unpleasant, and what we resist persists and grows stronger. When we remain aware and don’t get so lost in our experience, we suffer less.

One way to disentangle our sense of self from the contents of our experience is through noticing practice. We simply notice what we are thinking, feeling, or sensing so we maintain some perspective.

When we do this, we can more easily see the temporary nature of things. We can allow them to come and go without locking them into place. When our sense of self isn’t taken over by what we’re experiencing, we can relate to it more compassionately.
Together, we will identify the patterns we play out that create a sense of separation—from ourselves, others, and of life. These are fear-based ways of being that include people-pleasing, withdrawal, inflating or deflating ourselves, holding grudges, and defensiveness. We can untangle the assumptions we hold about the world and learn to meet our tender emotions with loving acceptance.

We will focus on a wide variety of areas of concern that you may have:

  • Family of Origin Relational & Ancestral Healing – Understand the effect of your early childhood or adverse childhood experiences on your emotional & physical health now
  • Somatic Deep Body Healing – Reprocessing deeply held traumare within your brain and nervous system
  • Attachment Healing – Rewire early attachment and familial patterns – Mother & Father Wounding
  • Birth Trauma & Early Developmental Trauma Healing – Learn about your HPA axis, levels of cortisol and adrenaline and how these may be adversely be effecting you
  • Embodied Recovery – Understand your somatic narrative and cultivate resiliency as a felt sense in your body
  • Embodied Movement – Understand how movement, flow and sound can help you move through deeply held emotion
  • Become aware of how stress feels in your body
  • Facilitate emotional processing of deeply held or stuck emotion
  • Process long-held anger, grief & loss
  • Reduce feelings of anxiety, depression and overwhelm
  • Integrate gut felt sense with cognition
  • Work with and know your own needs and self care
  • Become aware of stress activation patterns
  • Work with communication, energy, movement, boundaries & limits
I support women to uncover the root cause of the emotional and physical symptoms that they are experiencing. Our symptoms can be indications that our bodies and lifestyles are out of balance.  With a special interest in chronic stress, chronic pain, ongoing chronic women’s health concerns, including eating disorders, cycles of anxiety, overwhelm and and hormonal health – from PMS and fertility to menopause, and digestive issues.

If you find yourself repeating painful patterns in your relationships – and/or are you often feeling frustrated, overwhelmed or anxious?

Perhaps you’re ready to stop avoiding, numbing, fighting, running or dissociating from the pain? I can support you to heal long-held trauma that shows up as working too much, eating disorders, addition to drugs and alcohol, chronic stress, pain and illness.

I support people to connect to their core self: This alone can begin to restore what was lost through developmental trauma and life’s circumstances. We each have within us everything we need to recover from what happened to us, or what should’ve happened that did not.

I am deeply devoted to supporting others to remember the innate deep wisdom of their hearts as part of my journey.

Be ever so gentle with your heart.

I look forward to being with you.

sending soft love, Kim xoxoxo
[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

Whole Body Health & Well-Being from the Inside Out.
Deep healing at the level of the nervous system enables you to explore and expand your inner landscape where self – confidence and inner agency reside. When you heal your nervous system, you can more readily access deeper ways of knowing and being that include intuition, imagination, sensuality, and the subtle body of emotions.

Get in touch to learn more about working with me – [email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

What to Expect During a Whole Body Health Somatic Practice Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session

For true emotional and physical healing, we can’t leave our body and how it feels and responds, out of the process. Each person needs something very specific in their healing journey, which is why it is so important to have a customized approach with sessions that are specifically tailored for you – a combination of emotionally-focused psychotherapy and body-focused Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma.

Your body doesn’t have energy – it is energy. When we allow traumatic stress that is contained in our nervous system to begin to move through our system – flow begins to happen in our body and we feel more energetic, grounded, healthy and alive.

We explore our fluid bodies through the language of sensation, co-regulating touch,and  subtle movement. We have the opportunity of allowing time to slow down, to notice, let go and shed that which needs to shed, and to come through anew and refreshed.

For those who would like to focus on a body-focused, somatic approach, we begin by talking about your background, symptoms and history. We do this online and or in-person by sitting in chairs across from each other or you lie on your back on a table. When you are sitting in a chair, we can do some talk therapy, and you may also be asked if you are open to closing your eyes and noticing your feelings, emotions and body sensations that are happening for you in each moment.

For those who would like to do Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma Session – sessions consist of lying on a table with eyes closed – and I offer touch on several areas of the body: the head, stress organs, the belly, and joints in the body.

Sessions are done fully clothed. Each session is one-hour, unless we are doing an extended session – and is unique depending on what you are experiencing on that day and would like to focus on during a session – we want to tune in and understand what’s really going on in your body – beyond pathology and diagnoses – to allow your body to move into a flow state, rather than to remain stuck in a stress response state – during the session and in the hours and days afterwards.

NEW Offering -Core Embodiment Community Online Weekly Classes – September 2022 – A New Core Embodiment Community – We are coming out of isolation and yearning for community. If you are feeling that you want deeper connections, with yourself and others – you’re definitely not alone. We will meet together and go within to experience ourselves consciously living within our whole body. Feel more vibrantly alive, awake and responsive to life. Know who you are. Feel authentic, real, free. Live more clearly balanced and settled in the core of your being. Heal long-held nervous system patterns. Dive deeply into the sensations of your body to find the ground of your being. Practice how to fully receive all of the nuances of life’s changes, inhabit your body, disentangled from habitual grasping of the movement of life. An exploration of the qualities that nourish the experience of the ground of being: awareness; emotion; physical sensation; love; power; wisdom; wonder; intelligence. Attune to yourself and others within the pervasive field of fundamental consciousness. Stillness. Silence. Movement. Breath. Sound. 5 Mondays beginning in September 2022 – More details coming soon – get in touch to learn more – [email protected]

HEART HEALING Sessions – Heart healing sessions are all about you, your path and healing. It is about several sessions scheduled over a period of days to support you along your healing path.

My clients love this work, it is nourishing and gentle. It is wonderful for healing early developmental trauma, attachment repair and shifting to a more regulated place where the heart can freely open into abundance.

You may want to schedule these sessions as a focused time for letting go of all that you healing. Heart Healing sessions consist of combining several sessions over a short period of time. They are a great way to get out of your daily routine and be immersed in healing. We may meet for multiple sessions per day over 2-4 days. Since you will be out of your typical routine, this will give plenty of time for integration of the work and healing.

The Heart Healing Sessions are held in my office in Markham. You can schedule between 2-4 sessions over a period of days. Since this work is done away from your typical day to day life, integration of the work is deep and truly transformative.

I am sending softness, gentleness and love from my heart to yours. May you slow down and receive the wisdom your body is seeking to share with you breath by breath.

Let’s plan your sessions in advance – if you are interested in scheduling or have questions, please get in touch and we will make a plan for your visit. [email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

POLYVAGAL THEORY Safe & Sound Protocol OFFERING – The Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP) is an auditory intervention for adults and children – using headphones – that is intended to accelerate the effectiveness of other modalities by preparing the client’s emotional and physiological state. Dr. Stephen Porges (developer of The Safe & Sound Protocol & of The Polyvagal Theory) explains that we need a calm autonomic/physiological state for health, growth and restoration, and achieving this becomes the foundation of an effective therapy.  The Safe & Sound Protocol is a way to support a change  in your physiological state; opening the system to further neural change and improvement for other therapies that follow. The process is designed to reduce stress and auditory sensitivity while enhancing social engagement and resilience. The intervention uses prosodic vocal music that has been filtered to train the middle ear muscles to focus in on the frequency envelope of human speech. You’ll find you are better able to feel calm – less chronically stressed and/or anxious.  Clients who have experienced long-held trauma and are healing from PTSD, troubling chronic health concerns, chronic pain and troubling chronic emotional responses, can experience an increased sense of safety in their physiological state.

OTHER Offerings – Nurture Surround Healing Session– 90-minute In-Person session. Allow yourself to slow down and experience deep healing. You are deeply supported on the table with weighted blankets, soft pillows and bean bags on your body – you choose what is most comfortable for you – providing soft, nurturing care – feeling supported and held – with choice. We will take time to attune to your body’s core needs and comfort at a deep level. Your needs are important. I will use a variety of touch skills with you – and invite you to place a hand wherever you would like to on your body – and to pause, slow down and notice what you feel.

Using mind-body skills to stabilize your nervous system – befriending, grounding, slowing down, tracking and resourcing. We will listen to your body’s narrative while utilizing body-mind emotion dialogue. We will explore biological survival strategies and process historical trauma by creating moment-to-moment interpersonal experiences of safe connection. We will utilize non-cognitive senses of relational connection – auditory, visual, movement, and touch – co-creating manageable ways to defuse internal feelings of pressure, anxiety and stress.

HEALING CODEPENDENT Patterns in Relationships – healing through the body for codependent patterns in relationships – healing from resentment, blame, shame and addictive patterns – nurturing your inner child – learning your needs in relationships – and finding ease in the body, mind and heart for longstanding conditioned patterns.

HEALING FAMILY TRAUMA IMPRINT – 90-minute – in-person or online Zoom session – an opportunity to get to the roots of intergenerational trauma patterns & begin a path towards relational & relationship healing.

DISCOVER YOUR INNER MOTHER– Healing the Mother Wound – uncover your hidden family dynamics and trauma history – this is an opportunity to strengthen your internal relationship with your inner your self – as well as your mother, father and extended family – in ways that contribute to healing – get in touch to schedule an online or in-person session[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

SESSIONS FOR INDIVIDUALS & COUPLES – Relational Neurobiological Somatic Healing -an Embodied invitation for you – to slow down and feel the strength of a supportive resource, move beyond blame and notice how our nervous system states inform our interactions with our partner, feel present in your body, to unwind patterns of anxiety, depression, anger, hopelessness, chronic stress & pain, trauma, regulate your nervous system, to cultivate trust in your moment-to-moment experience, your naturally wise heart, and your capacity to connect to yourself, those you love and the love that surrounds us.

Somatic Body Learning & Practice and Somatic Experiencing Trauma Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma sessions are available for you now. Waking you up to Somatic Resilience & Regulation – the innate wisdom of your body, healing inherited, ancestral and pre & peri natal trauma patterns, feeling yourself below the level of thought, and accessing your full beingness in flowing, fluid motion.

Get in touch to learn more about The Safe & Sound Protocol (SSP), Embodied Recovery, Nurture Surround & Family Systems Imprint Sessions & Individual Body-Focused Therapy Sessions, and Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma, NeuroAffective Touch – The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic – in-person  and/or online – and to set up a time to work together:   [email protected]

The Anxiety, Stress & Trauma Restorative Clinic:
Creating Well-Being Through Nervous System Regulation.
Heal Relational Trauma – Break the Cycle of Inherited Family Trauma.
Nurturing Connection, Restoration & Building Resilience.

Easing the Body ~ Calming the Mind ~ Opening the Heart.
Somatic Experiencing ~ Somatic Practices ~ Co-Regulating Touch Bodywork for Trauma ~ Movement Practices ~ Whole Body Systems Approach for Healing Inflammation.

  • Movement & Breathwork – discover energetic awareness and simplicity.
  • Sensory Awareness … becoming more in touch with oneself and the world.
  • Somatic Reclaiming … re-integrating the body/mind/spirit.
  • Pre and Perinatal Therapies … consciousness begins before birth.
  • Somatic Experiencing … resolving shock and trauma.
  • Biodynamic Craniosacral Therapy … helping restore integrity in our living organism.
  • Relational Therapy … awareness in therapy; awareness in life.

Somatic work can be done effectively online, as well as in person – online sessions are available for those who would prefer not to come in to the office at this time, for those who live far away from the office, or prefer to work from your own home – [email protected]

Working together enables everyone who is willing to do the work an opportunity to decrease feelings of anxiety, pain, depression, chronic stress, pain or illness – as well decrease the chatter in the mind, and ground your mind and body with the depth of the intelligence found in the body. Experience lasting somatic transformation and feelings of calm, peace and wholeness – within your own body and within your relationships.

You will learn to feel and by doing so, you will move towards whole body health and well-being that you can feel within you.

[email protected] / www.s3p.d51.myftpupload.com

“I look forward to my bi-weekly session with Kim – I feel seen, heard and cared for in her presence.  I leave a session feeling more myself, integrated, and whole, even after addressing and touching traumatic and painful past experiences and feeling how they still affect me today. It’s healing without being re-traumatizing.” ~ client
“Kim creates a safe holding environment, so I’m not feeling so overwhelmed, alone and then can internalize that holding within myself when out of session. Our work together is helping me connect deeper to my body wisdom and to my younger part. I am getting more honest with myself and how much support I am needing and have needed for most of my life, I’ve been doing it all alone, which has been the case for a long time. I am able to reach out for more support now when things feel hard, and I am able to use the somatic skills she has taught me to resource myself and take much better care of myself. ” ~ client

What would your life be like if you could move beyond struggle and connect with your life energy – the energy of joy, wonder and the vitality of being truly alive?

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When I came to you I felt confused, disconnected and broken. Now, I'm on my way to feeling whole. Thank you.
Kim Cochrane
When I came to you I felt confused, disconnected and broken. Now, I'm on my way to feeling whole. Thank you.

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