People often feel relieved that they can talk freely and confidentially about their lives and the difficulties they are facing with a psychotherapist whose full attention is directed towards their particular experience. Friends, partners and family can be essential support systems in peoples’ lives; however, as a relational psychotherapist, I provide a unique relationship whose specific focus is to work collaboratively with you to understand, explore, sort out and heal what may be troubling you in your body, mind & heart.
A relational somatic therapist wants to learn about your embodied history, the way your body moves and how this limits or supports your natural way of being in the world and your capacity to form satisfying and lasting relationships with others. When entering the somatic emotional process of a person, they encounter more of that person’s ideas about themselves habitual feeling state. We will discover the person’s embodied history and how you interact with yourself.
Relational Somatic therapy is an evolving dynamic process based partly on talking and partly on working directly with the client’s embodied experience — using awareness, breath, movement, sound and touch. My work is also based firmly on each person being (or becoming) self-directive and engaged in discovering their basic somatic structure.
Why take part in embodied study & practice and integrated relational somatic therapy?
An embodied, relational somatic therapy practice is one where feelings and sensations in the body are explored and understood. How you move, how you think, your emotional struggles, relationship dynamics, career concerns, are all subject to change if you understand the principles underlying how you organize yourself in the world. There are reasons that you hold yourself in a particular posture, reasons that you protect and defend yourself from others, from failure, or even, success. Those reasons are found in the deeper patterns that underlie your conscious mind. When you dive into somatic experience you learn to navigate the unconscious. Somatic practices facilitate self-awareness, mindfulness, and communication with your inner self. You can gain access to deeply-held physical, emotional, and psychological patterns. Once you “meet” and establish communication with these different aspects of yourself, change has already begun.
What can I expect when I commit to attending regular sessions?
After we start working together, you will begin to have an increased awareness and understanding of yourself and your relationships to others in your life. You will learn to pay attention to your heart — and become clear about what is most important to you in your life. You will become more mindful, turn towards yourself and pay attention to your body, have more clarity, more energy, increased feelings of peacefulness and calm, less anxiety, and an increased sense of wholeness within yourself.
How long will the therapy process take?
Psychotherapy is a process and it takes time and effort for deeply engrained feelings to be explored, to move and to change. Change happens gradually, sometimes out of your awareness. In the relational psychotherapeutic process we will co-create new meanings of how you are in relationships and what relationships mean to you. Eventually, you will notice that you are living these new meanings, and experiencing a greater capacity to live from a place of authenticity, self-assurance and joy. A happy, fulfilled life will always contain challenges. Our work together will not remove life’s challenges, but will support you through them and help you to discover more satisfying ways of addressing them.
What is my role as your psychotherapist & integrated somatic therapist?
My role is to hold the “frame” of the therapeutic relationship. This means that I will listen closely to what you talk about and find ways to reflect with you on the material you bring. I will be alert to the recurring themes that arise in different parts of your life and together we will explore what meanings you make of the relationships, past and present, in your life. As time goes on we will start to more easily notice where these themes and meanings arise, how they impact your life and how you respond. We may even notice how these themes and meanings can creep into our relationship – which is great because if they are alive between us we can work with them in real time. I will also focus the session drawing in themes and ideas from other sessions so that we can start to put the pieces together.
What kind of commitment do I need to make?
Psychotherapy is an ongoing, regular process that involves the development of a solid therapeutic relationship. In order to develop the trusting relationship necessary to do this work it is important that we meet with regular frequency on an ongoing basis. Once we have established that we will work together, I would suggest making a commitment to the frequency and times of the sessions. Psychotherapy is more effective when the sessions are regularly attended.
How much will I be expected to reveal?
This is your choice. We will go at your pace, in your time. At first, you may not feel comfortable sharing some parts of your story or experience. Over time, as trust develops between us, you may feel more comfortable revealing more of your vulnerabilities. The more open you can be, the more potential there is for learning and growth. I will help you to slow the story down so that we can pay close attention to the details that you may not have previously considered. The details often tell us a great deal and can make a big difference to how we understand what is going on for you.
Why is it important to understand your early experiences?
Your early experiences created many of he beliefs and perspectives that are happening in your life right now. At one time they made sense and they served you well, as a means of surviving, coping or thriving. However, in the course of living, you may have created coping strategies, and have formed defenses that may not serve you now. Nevertheless, you may be acting out the same behaviours in your life now, without realizing it, because it feels familiar and safe. In fact, you may feel that your patterns are no longer serving you, that you’ve outgrown them, and they are hindering your growth. By revisiting the past you can see the same experience with a new perspective and can choose to move forward differently – in a way that now supports you. The old energy and the emotion associated with the past that you carry with you can be released and transformed.
How will I know if the therapy is working?
If you feel heard, understood and supported by your therapist, therapy is off to a good start. If you are gaining new insights about yourself and your relationships, this can be an indication that you are on the right track. If you find yourself leaving therapy sessions going over the material we have discussed and feeling like someone is really starting to “get” you, chances are therapy is being helpful.
If you are noticing that you are starting to become more aware of the themes in your life as they emerge and you are consciously trying out different responses that feel more authentic and have different results, the benefits of therapy are making their way into your life. If you are getting in touch with feelings in your body that you didn’t pay attention to you before, and are making sense of confusing emotions and maybe starting to express them to others, therapy is doing what it is meant to do.
If life doesn’t seem as daunting, and you feel more able to handle the unpredictability of life, therapy is helping. The goal of therapy is to help you to feel more in touch with your body, thoughts and heart, more satisfied in your life, more equipped to handle life’s challenges, and more aware of yourself and how you are in your relationships and the world.