Going Beyond Your Inner Limits.

January 13, 2016

Going beyond means going past where you are. It means not staying in your current state.

When you constantly go beyond yourself, there are no more limitations.

There are no more boundaries. Limitations and boundaries only exist at the places where you stop going beyond. If you never stop, then you go beyond boundaries, beyond limitations, beyond the sense of a restricted self.

To go beyond, you must keep going past the limits that you put on things.

This requires change at the core of your being.

If anything happens that challenges how you view things, you fight. You defend. You rationalize. You get frustrated and angry over simple things. This is the result of being unable to fit what’s actually happenings into your model of reality. If you want to go beyond your mental model, you have to take the risk of not believing in it.

In order to truly go beyond your model, you must first understand why you built it. The easiest way to understand this is to study what happens when you’re model doesn’t work.

Have you ever built your whole world on a model of life predicated upon another person’s behaviour or the permanence of a relationship?

If so, have you ever had that foundation pulled out from under you?

Somebody leaves you. Somebody dies. Something goes wrong. Something shakes your model to the core.

When this happens, your entire view of who you believe you are, including your relationship to everyone and everything around you, begins to fall apart. You panic and do everything you can to hold it together. You beg, fight, and struggle to keep your world from collapsing.

Once you’ve had an experience like this, you realized that the model you’ve built is tenuous, at best. The entire model can fall apart. The whole model and all that it is built upon, including your view of yourself and everyone else, can crumble.

What you experience when this happens is painful, and it can be the most important learning experiences of your life. You come face-to-face with what made you build the model. The level of discomfort and disorientation you experience is scary and you struggle to get back some semblance of normal perception.

What you are really doing is trying to do pull the mental model back around you so that you can settle down into your familiar mental setting.

Our world doesn’t have to fall apart in order for us to see what we’re doing here.

We are constantly trying to hold it all together. If you want to see why you do things, you can stop doing them and see what happens.

Let’s say you’re a smoker. If you decide to stop smoking, you’ll confront the urges that cause you to smoke. These urges are the reason you smoke. If you can get through these urges, you will see what caused them.

You are constantly trying to stay in your comfort zone.

You struggle to keep people, places and things in a manner that supports your model. If things start to go any other way, you get uncomfortable. Your mind then becomes active telling you how to get things back the way you need them to be.

Going beyond always means letting go of the effort to keep things within your defined limits.

So you can devote your life to staying in your comfort zone, or you can work on your freedom.

If other words, you can devote your whole life to the process of making sure everything fits within your limited model, or you can devote your life to freeing yourself from the limits of your model.

The confines of your comfort zone create a cage.

This cage doesn’t limit your body – it limits the expanse of your consciousness. Because you aren’t going outside your comfort zone, you are, in essence, locked in confinement.

If you look closely, you will see that you’re willing to stay in this cage because you are afraid. Your comfort zone is familiar to you, and outside of it is unknown.

Going beyond means going beyond the borders of the cage.

There can be no cage. You are free to expand everywhere. You are free to experience all of life.

This can only happen when you are willing to face reality without mental boundaries. If you still have barriers, and you know what they are because you hit them every day, and you can be willing to go beyond them.

You use your mind to stay inside your cage.

When you approach the edges of your cage you feel insecurity, jealousy, fear or self-consciousness.

If you are willing to go beyond, you are always at your limits. You’re never back in the comfort zone.

In time, and with inner work, you will begin to understand that it can’t actually hurt you to go beyond your limits. If you are willing to stand on the edge and keep walking, you will go beyond. You used to pull back when it got uncomfortable, and now you will go past that point.

You are able to go beyond where you were a minute ago by being with what’s happening now.

Would you like to go beyond? Would you like to feel no edges?

Imagine a comfort zone that is so expanded that it can easily fit the entire day, no matter what happens.

Learning to relax through your edges and moving through your discomfort.

It’s possible to love your edges because they can point your way to freedom.

This is what it means to go beyond.

Let’s go beyond. Together.

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